It's Not About Me or You

8 hours ago I knew I had to post something on my blog, anything at all, at least this time I wanted to ensure I was consistent with something for once in my life - and I knew I wasn't going to give up easily. 5 hours ago I was still battling with what to post and what kept jumping into my mind was to write some lovey dovey nonsense every blog out there tends to discuss eventually. I knew I could write it in a way it would be relateable to everyone visiting this blog but I just didnt want to write anything lovey dovey. While I was still battling with what to write exactly, a friend of mind came to rant in my DM on WhatsApp and for some reason the best I could do was bring that exact situation out of my own life and to tell my friend he wasn't the only one going through it. 

Damn this is getting to serious for my liking, urgh bleh, anyway; since my friend and I had this conversation I've been thinking about it and I've noticed we all have this habit of trying to make people feel like they're not the only one going through something. Some of you probably understand what I'm talking about already but for the slow central processing unit people like me, I'll break it down with a story as usual. 

A while back I was having this discussion with a certain friend (as much as I'd like to add their names there's too many baggage I do not want the rest of the world knowing about so I'll keep them anonymous). Apparently he felt like he was going through pressure to succeed, like there was this weight on him to 'BLOW' because everyone around him seems to be doing great. He brought his fears and insecurities to me and the first thing I said was 'no be only you'. Yes I was facing this insecurity myself that some of my friends have told me I'm pushing myself too hard and stuff like that but that's not the point. The point is, instead of trying to make my friend feel better the first thing I did was make it about me and the most important part of it is I didn't know I was doing it. A lot of us do this and we don't even know we're doing it. 

I'm not a shrink or anything and I don't know if it's some sort of way for us to feel better about ourselves or make others feel like they're not alone or something. I also don't know for a fact if it's a good thing or a bad thing because when I think about it, it goes both ways. But oh well what do I know?  Anyways that's that. 

Also I'm in this hoe zone in my life where I just want to hoe, I know I'm going to regret it eventually but hey? There's no fun without a little danger. By the way I think Headies should go on a long break to properly plan their next award because it's gradually losing its importance if it hasnt lost all the dignity it has already. I mean the only different thing about headies is the year, they use the same location, the  same old schedule, the same everything and people are tired. It's like the organizers are fresh out of creative ideas, no wonder Star Boy Fest organized by Wizkid made the Headies award look like a roadshow. 

What do you guys think by the way?

Are you guilty of making it about yourself?

Do you think it makes one a bad person?

Did you watch the Headies? 

What do you think about 2019 Headies? 

Do you have a cute single female friend that wants to hoe? 

If you do, kindly send me her email address.

Cheers, till next week. I couldn't post memes because I'm battling with serious network issues in my hostel, this incessant rainfall has been overwhelming meehn.